He's a little better today.

[sugarplumkitty]

I called the hospital this morning. Paul is aware and communicating around the ventilator they've got him on. His nurse said his kidneys never did shut down. They're not working well, but they are working. Whew! I asked her to tell him "cousin Linda sends her love." I could hear the smile in her voice as she told me she would.

Last night on my way home from work, I asked God that if all the deaths and serious illnesses were being sent my way to teach me some deep life lesson, to please let me learn it so I could get on with life.

Then I handed the stress and worry to God and let it go. There is nothing at all I can do about the situation. I can't change Eric to a kid-wanting man. Chances are, Jonathan will go up to another cousin in Washington who has raised ADHD kids and was also very close to Judy.

I talked to my mom as soon as I got home. Let out my frustrations about how I want to open my home to Judy's boys and how I know that isn't OK with Eric. She understood and reminded me that my first obligation is to my husband. Yeah, I know. This is the one major area for us that doesn't fit well. Eric has it in his head that teenagers=War. He'd want to install the same horribly rigid prison of rules that he grew up fighting with. I'd be more lax the way my parents were, setting late curfews and letting my teenager learn from his mistakes. I see teen years as a time for transition, taking on decisions and their consequences while there's still a parental backup for support. My sister did it that way. Her sons aren't criminals. They're quite responsible.

When I shared the news and my conversation with God with Eric, he reminded me that it might all be to teach some other family member the deep life lesson. So then I prayed that the lesson be learned by whoever soon, so all this dying would stop for a while.

When I get a chance, I'll write about Judy.

Thanks to all of you for your thoughts, prayers and support!

Love, Linda

Comments

[penpusher.livejournal.com]

Good luck and good wishes for all of these situations. Hang tough, Linda.

[sugarplumkitty.livejournal.com]

Thanks. That's all I can do.

[dolphingirl.livejournal.com]

I'm glad your cousin is doing better, and I hope everything works out OK for the kids. Take care of yourself, sweetie.

[sugarplumkitty.livejournal.com]

Thanks! I'm doing my best.

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[aikoheiwa.livejournal.com]

I'm glad to hear that he's doing better. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.

My husband's middle name is Eric.

I have ADHD.

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[sugarplumkitty.livejournal.com]

Thank you. My husband's middle name is Eric too. He doesn't use his first name except on legal documents.

We both have ADD. I have ADHD.

[xainthia.livejournal.com]

It's good to hear that he is doing better. My thoughts go out to you and your family.

[yeoww.livejournal.com]

*hugs* and I'm here if you want to get together or just talk.

[powerpynt.livejournal.com]

Hope it all works out soon hon.

[plusjke.livejournal.com]

I'm glad he's feeling better.
Let's hope he's on his way to recovery.

Teenagers? You can have mine for a while.
Really! They got me on the edge of a nervous breakdown today.
Sometimes they're fun, but most of the time it's a nightmare in the house.
*how i wished they weren't teenagers anymore*