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I used to wonder the same thing about love. Nobody could put into words how "you just know."
They were right, by the way. You do "just know" when it's true love. It does exist. I know because I've found it. Unconditional love... actually it's compromise that's difficult at first, especially if you're just learning how. But after a while it just becomes who you are. Does it suck at times? Sure. But those times pass and the postives outweigh the negatives by a lot if you work at keeping a healthy relationship.
Both people have to take responsibility for making sure their needs get met and both people have to be willing to allow the other to do that. If you don't have that, it's not "True Love." By the way, the other person can't fill ALL of your needs. You still need your friends. That's where a lot of people go wrong with the "love" thing.
How do you know? I'll give it a try. This is my experience. Others may have a different experience.
It's a warm, calm, delightful feeling of belonging. You can say anything you want because the other person thinks the same way you do and they understand at a gut level where you're coming from. You have the same twists in your sense of humor. You don't have to pretend to be anything you're not - unless you play that way! (wink wink) The events in your lives now seem to have happened for the purpose of preparing the two of you to be together with this deep level of understanding. You have the same values and morals. You almost feel like loving, supportive family members or best friends... except for the passion that surges and feels so right!
The passion that surged up the first time Eric kissed me completely took me by surprise. My knees went weak and I started to tremble. I'd never ever ever had that reaction to a kiss before. It was like an cosmic electrical connection that had been supercharged and was waiting for us to hook it up.
I knew in that moment; deep, deep in my gut, that Eric was "The One." Our mutual friends claim to have seen it from the moment our eyes locked the night we met. Eric said he knew at the moment he first saw me with my "impish grin."
In the more than thirteen years we've known each other, we've been through a lot together. The good, the bad and the devastating have brought us closer. We sometimes get frustrated with each other over the few differences we've got, but we accept the other's idiosyncrases as part of the whole person and choose to laugh about them most of the time.
True love exists. Don't settle for anything less.
They were right, by the way. You do "just know" when it's true love. It does exist. I know because I've found it. Unconditional love... actually it's compromise that's difficult at first, especially if you're just learning how. But after a while it just becomes who you are. Does it suck at times? Sure. But those times pass and the postives outweigh the negatives by a lot if you work at keeping a healthy relationship.
Both people have to take responsibility for making sure their needs get met and both people have to be willing to allow the other to do that. If you don't have that, it's not "True Love." By the way, the other person can't fill ALL of your needs. You still need your friends. That's where a lot of people go wrong with the "love" thing.
How do you know? I'll give it a try. This is my experience. Others may have a different experience.
It's a warm, calm, delightful feeling of belonging. You can say anything you want because the other person thinks the same way you do and they understand at a gut level where you're coming from. You have the same twists in your sense of humor. You don't have to pretend to be anything you're not - unless you play that way! (wink wink) The events in your lives now seem to have happened for the purpose of preparing the two of you to be together with this deep level of understanding. You have the same values and morals. You almost feel like loving, supportive family members or best friends... except for the passion that surges and feels so right!
The passion that surged up the first time Eric kissed me completely took me by surprise. My knees went weak and I started to tremble. I'd never ever ever had that reaction to a kiss before. It was like an cosmic electrical connection that had been supercharged and was waiting for us to hook it up.
I knew in that moment; deep, deep in my gut, that Eric was "The One." Our mutual friends claim to have seen it from the moment our eyes locked the night we met. Eric said he knew at the moment he first saw me with my "impish grin."
In the more than thirteen years we've known each other, we've been through a lot together. The good, the bad and the devastating have brought us closer. We sometimes get frustrated with each other over the few differences we've got, but we accept the other's idiosyncrases as part of the whole person and choose to laugh about them most of the time.
True love exists. Don't settle for anything less.
