What is really weighing on me..

[sugarplumkitty]

Two things:

First, my Godmother/aunt is dying. I need to go see her while she can still visit. I'd planned to visit her over the weekend but ended up fighting plumbing and being too dirty to go anywhere. She has survived a lot longer than anyone expected. She has emphysema from smoking most of her life. I'll write more about her later.

Second is J's uncle who is apparently stealing J's social security money. He still hasn't signed the official custody transfer papers and isn't sending J's money to his new guardian, either. It's creating financial issues J and April shouldn't have to deal with. The uncle wouldn't do well in prison. He's not a well man. I wonder if he realizes he's committing fraud? One thing I learned from a mistake on my taxes, you don't want to mess with the U.S. government on financial matters.

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[flurgh.livejournal.com]

I know this sounds cold, but since J's uncle seems to have no regard for his well-being it's time he gets a taste of his own medicine.

[sugarplumkitty.livejournal.com]

Oh, I'm so there myself.

[flurgh.livejournal.com]

Shall I bring the tar or the feathers?

[sugarplumkitty.livejournal.com]

Well, the man did have heart valve failure and a stroke three years ago. He wasn't supposed to survive. He really isn't himself since then. I think guilt is paralyzing him.

[flurgh.livejournal.com]

You know, it's strange that you mention health problems changing someone. It reminded me of one of my mom's old bowling buddies. Her husband was always a great guy, and happened to be a local barber in town. Suddenly he got sick and had to have heart surgery. I actually think he had a heart transplant. Don't quote me on that, but I know it was something very very serious like that. Well, after he had the surgery he was a completely different person. A few years ago, he just up and left his wife and daughter for no reason. Just this past year I was driving through town and noticed that the barber shop was closed and someone was taking down the sign. I asked around and apparently the guy commited suicide. I still can't believe he went from upstanding citizen to sleezebag to suicidal basically overnight.

[sugarplumkitty.livejournal.com]

Depression can completely change a person.

[honeyswtrose.livejournal.com]

I am sorry to hear about your godmother/aunt. I do hope you get to see her very soon.

About J's uncle... I think a call from an attorney should get things moving. or do you have any policeman friend's that could tell him the law

[sugarplumkitty.livejournal.com]

No but I do have a connection at social security. A plan is in place.

[aikoheiwa.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry to hear about your Godmother. :(

Is anything being done about his uncle?

[sugarplumkitty.livejournal.com]

Yes, as it turns out. But it involves J and April showing up at a local social security office and waiting hours for J to ask them to stop the payments until after the custody transfer court-date the school is setting up... or someone is setting up.J can't miss school and neither can April (she teaches) so it won't happen until after Christmas.

[angelsmum.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry to hear about your Aunt...I hope you get to spend some nice time with her before she passes.


And that sucks about J's Uncle, I hope He Gets His. >:(

[sugarplumkitty.livejournal.com]

Thanks. I'm doing what I can in both cases.

[angelsmum.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[meows-r-us.livejournal.com]

I am sorry to hear about your aunt.

[sugarplumkitty.livejournal.com]

She's in her 80's and I am amazed at how long she's kept going despite her many health issues. She used to be an active, energetic person when she was younger. To see her chained to an oxygen tank all these years has been difficult. It's going to be sad to lose her but she'll be free.

[lilbrattyteen.livejournal.com]

P isn't stealing the money. I called him about it - yes, I called him myself - and he isn't. But we talked about family life with them for those 8 years. He's SOOOOO in denial about his wife.

And the next day he was in the hospital with chest pains. And ya know what? I feel no guilt. If he can't handle the truth about his own wife and what she did and how he did nothing to stop it......hell, that's his problem.

A quote from him: "I don't think that D treated your brother particularily badly." He said that she had to be harsh because he had to "grow up" and "be a man." I'm only quoting him here.

And he honestly thinks that him and Dayna are getting along better now without me. Yep, that sounds like him - never willing to confront his problems, blaming external situations when any idiot can see that the real problems lie within him and his wife. D is a very selfish person who needs to deal with her issues (kinda like me, except I AM and she never has in her 60 years of life).

It's sad, but unless they confront their problems, they'll die friendless and unhappy (they have no friends in Sunnyside). I know it's not my problem though.

*broods*

[sugarplumkitty.livejournal.com]

April told me over dinner. *hugs*

Do what you can to let it go. You can't change the past and you can't change anyone other than yourself.

*more hugs*