ext_85041 ([identity profile] sugarplumkitty.livejournal.com) wrote in [personal profile] sugarplumkitty 2005-03-26 07:00 pm (UTC)

That may be why we're friends. We find each other. I was able to undo a lot of emotional damage through the program. So was my hubby. I think my happiest result is that I led the way to sobriety for my parents. I started going because I was tired of not fitting anywhere and I'd realized my resentment toward my mom was toxic to me. I needed to get rid of it. A guy I was dating led me there.

I educated my sister who was in denial about Mom's alcoholism - we knew she was crazy, just not why - and we were able to step in with an intervention when the time was right. Both parents ended up diagnosed as alcoholics and put into a year-long outpatient program. It saved their marriage and started Mom on a path of healing I'm still amazed about. They had 10 truly happy years of marriage before we lost my dad to Hodgkin's disease.

Today, I have the relationship with my mom I always wanted. I love her and I'm proud of her.

You know, I almost hemmed and hawed and said we met at a "self-help group." There's a whole anonymity thing about program. I'm very open about my end of it. Eric is a bit more discreet.
I'm so glad now I didn't!

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